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Change of plans. I actually wanted to write a new post about my new obsession for belted blazers, when I realized It’s time to get personal. I love reading advice about life, about mistakes others do and what they learned from them to better themselves. So, this is my way. These are the mantras of my life, little quotes. If you need a little bit of self-empowerment right now, a friendly pat on the back, these are for you!
The mantra that had the biggest impact on my life, is definitely number three.

What you say about others, you say to yourself

Isn’t it funny how women run around with „GIRLPOWER“ t-shirts these days, yet so many gossip around and act envious towards other females? If you ask me, that is the definition of a hypocrite. The moment you talk badly about someone, you invite negativity into your life. And who needs more of that! I was one of the people, who would sit in a café and gossip about the people walking by. I don’t do that anymore because I realized: Confident people don’t need that. Busy people don’t have time for that. Content people are too happy with their own lives –  they wouldn’t risk that for any negativity. And these are the three personality traits that I always longed for to achieve in life.

By the way, did you know how harmful gossip is towards your reputation? Apparently, scientists proved that when you speak badly about someone in front of other people, in recollection they associate the negative traits to you. Isn’t that fascinating? Better not call anyone lazy, untidy, or unfit!

If people ignore you, don’t disturb them!

There is something very intense about female friendships. I have seen both, the good and the very bad. This quote reminds me of that. We spend too much time holding on to relationships that aren’t working anymore. One side always feels like chasing the other, until someone drops off your radar completely. No effort, no interest. I especially saw that happen, when I graduated from school and each time after I finished my university studies. Only a few true friendships last and that bloody hurts. Who wants to feel irrelevant? But sometimes, change is good. You can’t force interest. You can’t create it. If it’s not there, you’ll find someone else, who has it. Don’t waste your time running after someone. Life is too short to waste your time and too long not to make the most of it. There is this Paramore song: „Ignorance is your new best friend.“ Your loss, moving on!

I want you,

but I don’t need you

Once you get this, you live your life fearlessly. I’m not there yet, but I constantly remind myself of this: There is always a choice. You don’t need something, or someone in your life to do something. You can always leave. Sometimes, we live in our own narrow world, we forget about the endless possibilities out there.
Don’t date a guy thinking that he needs to like you no matter what. You want him, but you don’t need him. Don’t go into a job interview believing that it’s the perfect one and it has to work, otherwise you will be depressed forever. You really want it, but you can find an even better one.
Realising that you can always walk away from any situation is the kindest thing you could ever do for yourself. This mindset sets you free. It teaches you, that you are fine just the way you are. You are complete. And you don’t need to have, or achieve something, to live a happy live. Isn’t that what we all want?

BLAZER: MANGO  |  TURTLENECK BLOUSE: ZARA  |  JEANS: TOPSHOP  |  BOOTS: AEYDE ‚BORIS‘  |  BELT: ASOS  |  SUNGLASSES: &OTHERSTORIES  PICTURES BY NIKAS GÜNTHER

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